THE REFRAINER'S APPROACH TO PURCHASING, FASHION AND PERSONAL STYLE
As a Refrainer, you enjoy many wonderful things, but shopping is not one of them.
Refrainers display an evasive attitude towards fashion and purchasing. You do not feel confident in your intuitive style abilities, so you avoid shopping to avoid "making mistakes".
This "minimalism by default" approach to fashion has resulted in a wardrobe that doesn't reflect your personality. Your clothing expenditures are in check because you are not attending the fashion party, but this could be to the detriment of your authentic self-expression.
You may feel shame surrounding not being able to “figure it out” and might have past experiences where you received negative feedback when expressing yourself authentically. As such, playing it safe by refraining from participating became the more appealing choice.
In the rare instances that you do have to shop, you wander around the store in a state of complete overwhelm, pulling items at random, trying things on with limited direction and low levels of enthusiasm, ultimately leaving frustrated and underwhelmed with your purchase (if you even make it that far).
Deep down you know that finding your fashion voice would be super liberating, but you haven't yet summonsed the motivation to step into your authentic style expression.
The good news, Refrainer, is that there are strategies that can quantum leap you into the INTUITIVE, SOVEREIGN, EMPOWERED version of yourself that is so ready for her debut.
TOOLS & TIPS TO SHIFT FROM REFRAIN TO ATTAIN
BUILD AWARENESS
Building awareness around your narrative is one of the most effective ways to shift into action. Getting curious about your triggers will help you to identify where the avoidance stems from, and develop strategies to support yourself.
IDENTIFY THE SHIFT
Identify the payoff that you are seeking by filling in the blanks: If I refrain from purchasing, I will feel _____________.
Understanding the emotional motivator(s) for the purchase will help you highlight opportunities to heal.
RELEASE WHAT DOES NOT SERVE YOU
While playing safe can feel, well, safe, it is important to consider the opportunity cost of not playing at all. Finding your voice through authentic self-expression and allowing yourself to be witnessed can be healing and liberating...and is integral to the human experience!
CONNECT WITH INTUITION
Strengthen your fashion voice by connecting to your intuition and letting it guide your Intuitive Style and Authentic Style Expression. This will help you as you become more adventurous with trying new pieces.
VISUALIZE YOUR IDEAL WARDROBE
If you could be, do and have anything at all, what would that look like? And how would you feel? Envision a scenario where you would be owning your look and fully thriving. What are you doing and what are you wearing? Write down the key words that are coming up for you.
EASE INTO PLAY
Fashion can be an amazing way to express yourself, and easing into play is a great way to start building self-trust and strengthening your fashion voice. Investigate your personal style with childlike curiosity, free from judgment, and make note of what feels the most expansive for you.
BUILD CONFIDENCE WITH INTUITIVE STYLE
Building confidence doesn't happen overnight, but you can take baby steps to actualization by harnessing your Intuitive Style. This "slow build" approach will help your nervous system stay regulated while you take calculated fashion risks that feel aligned to your authentic style-expression.
YOU ARE THE WISEST WOMAN IN YOUR WARDROBE.
BE YOUR OWN FASHION EDITOR.
Ali Call, Founder and CEO
Wardrobe Consultant by Trade, Capricornian Strategist by Birth, Manifesting Generator by Design, and Emotional Intuitive by Nature.
I have spent the entirety of my life fascinated by the psychology of shopping both personally, as a recovered shopping addict, and professionally, as a stylist who spent the past decade mapping the emotional motivators for my clients’ purchasing patterns.
Supporting women in connecting to intuitive style, healing dysfunctional shopping habits, and purchasing with intention is a purpose-driven pursuit for me, and I am so happy you are here.
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